Don’t you hate hearing that? It is not personal? It is to me !!!
Truth be told, most of the time, it actually is not personal
Wait, wait, wait….hear me out
Most of the time people are just acting and reacting from their own programming, conditioning, agenda, projections, etc
It is usually not about you and all about them. Their thoughts, their ideas, their perceptions, their misunderstandings or understandings
Most of us are just trying to do the best we can with the tools we have at the time
Some of us are more equipped than others and have more tools
We cannot control how other people think, react or act
The ONLY thing we can control is how we act, react and choose to think. (PERIOD)
Trying to change someone and their thoughts is futile (no judgment, been there and done that)
If someone chooses to change their thoughts, actions and reactions that can happen. Spending our time, emotions and energy trying to do that for someone is an exercise in futility
Know this my sweet, wonderful and amazing soul: you are perfect just the way you are and always have the ability to get better, do better, think better, if that is your choice.
Taking responsibility and ownership for your parts of any situation and improving how you may handle this or something next time is the best you can do
We are all learning as we go.
By staying open, curious and listen without judgment to ourselves and others, that my friend, is a step forward and helps depersonalize what often may feel personal 🙂
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