Things Will Happen - Control is an Illusion

No matter how hard you try and be the architect of your life, things will happen.  That is life....nothing new there.  As hopefully most of you are acutely aware, we cannot control everything ..... whatttttt?????

By the way Kudos to you if you have figured it out already ... it took me many decades on this planet to learn that.

Yup, hard as we try, we are not in the drivers seat of this wonderful journey we call life.  We cannot control others thoughts, emotions, choices, beliefs, ideas, etcetera...... we cannot even control many of the things that happen in our own life despite our many attempts at trying.

What we can control is how we respond, react and choose to show up.  Those things are under our control.

When life throws you a curve ball, you can resist, wonder why, wonder how and so on, generally that does not help the issue at hand.  Time and time again I have learned the sooner I give in re evaluate and readjust the sooner that gnawing, burning, frustrating feeling in my gut disappears and peace reappears. 

The older I get the more I value peace as my resting state.

I admit, some days are easier than others to give in ....... those are the days when my choices are more wise :-). PS. Giving in does not mean giving up by any stretch.  It means maybe it is time to stop fighting reality and find a better way and figure out what is truly important and how to best honor that.

As usual it is the small steps in shifting your mindset that will lead to bigger things :):):)

Maybe Good Enough is Enough

How many times do we put things off until we can get it right, do it right, not make a mistake....and so on and so on.  We torture ourselves over the minutia and the procrastination, the overwhelm that can just lead to apathy and then nothing happens :(

What if good enough is enough??? What if just taking one step towards doing one thing on that project your putting off or that task that needs to be done or that email you need to write??? 

What if you take one tiny step? If might not be the perfect step but it is the one that puts you in motion... it is the one that starts the process of kinetic energy. I am not sure why or how I remember that a body in motion stays in motion and a body at rest stays at rest....trust me I am no physicist ... I don’t even know if that is a principle of physics :-) If there was only a device I could quickly look that up on...oh yes there is and it is ...wow, I did learn something in school;):);)

What I do know is that once you start moving, it makes it much easier to continue to move and next thing you know you look back and accomplish something and it FEELS GREAT! 

Take this quick blog post today .... it started with one word, one concept and kept going until now.  It is not perfect but it is something.

So I ask you .... what is one step you could take?  You don’t know....if you did know, what would it be?

Take the step, I dare you .... then let us know what it was and we can celebrate together!!!!

Xoxo

Happy First Day of Spring

Grief

Grief is like a wave on the beach 

It washes in and out

Up and over

Sometimes tiny

Sometimes ominous

It flows through you and over you

It can be gone one minute

Roaring back the next 

Grief is the most painful reminder that you are alive 

It will knock you down to the studs and make you question the why 

It levels you 

Renders you speechless, motionless often without a will 

It is the one shared emotion that can bring us back together again because of the raw nature, the humility and the inequity of its presence 

The only way to get beyond the waves to the serenity of the calm is to go through them 

You can stay on the sandy beach and watch the serene calm on the other side but 

To really feel it, immerse in it, bathe in its tranquility 

Is to muster up the extreme courage 

Take a step in 

Feel the wave ..... its coldness, it’s inhumane nature, slapping you, hitting you knocking you down and often leaving you feeling like you don’t want to get back up

Trudge forward, plant your feet in the ground 

Take small steps 

Turn to the side if you have to

Duck under for a bit and swim

Feel it, take it on

Do what is takes to get to the other side

So you can again rejoice in the calm, the tranquil, the knowing 

Will there be other waves??? 

Probably

Each one you conquer will give you the ability to go through the next

Life is not easy, life can be very hard 

Life is not for the weak or faint of heart

But oh is it worth it 

Baby steps my friend 

They can get you through 

So you can make it to the end

Taking one day, one hour, one moment at a time

Accepting what is 

Appreciation and Gratitude for the moment that is now

Look up, look around, question, be curious, be open, be you 

Grief is cruel and it is unkind

You can and will get through this 

One step at a time 

I am here for you, to hold your hand 

To walk side by side

Together we can

Take each wave

As it comes

We can sit in silence or talk it out

Whatever you need is what this is about